Make Space for More Joy

Speaker 1: hi I'm Melanie bar welcome to the Sheed experience with Melanie you're here because you want to experience the life and business that you crave join me as I talk to women who have successfully built it a career and business that they love we dive into the topic of how they built it and talk about everything from Having the courage to make career leaps to the details of how to lead effectively create successful teams Implement strategies for growth and Infuse Tech innovation magic happens when we focus on the part of ourselves and our business that brings us joy so let's dive in how do you make sure to find and live your joy each day I ask this question at the end of every she built it podcast episode and what I love about it is that the answers are all so different it's so important that we listen to ourselves honor ourselves and give ourselves the grace and space to be who we are here are five ways that recent guests make sure to find and live the

Speaker 2: joy I love this question I know it's such such a big focus of of what you talk about and that's important because you are a more effective leader and a more effective business person a better partner you know if if you're have a relationship if you have a family you are better all around when you are filling your own cup it's so easy when we're chasing big goals and you know building businesses to give ourselves The Leftovers to give everything we have to other people and to our business and to have nothing left over to you know actually fill yourself back up and so for me horseback riding is my biggest passion in life I've been riding my whole life and I typically go riding you know I I live in Chicago so you know I go an hour and a half outside the city to go ride you know each Direction and usually Wednesdays and Saturdays are my days to go out to the barn and for a long time I went through this period where I was constantly canceling that Wednesday Wednesday day and it was the easiest thing to pull off my calendar when I was having a busy week or I needed to fit in a meeting and I really had this moment of realizing the damage that I was doing to myself and my business to take off of the calendar the biggest thing that is giving me joy and so now I am so diligent about protecting that time and making sure that I can do that each week and it does allow me to show up better for my team to show up better for my clients and to really be so much more productive you know every other day of the week so I think it's so important one way that I learn to find and live in my joy each day is practicing different acts of self-care

Speaker 2: call myself the selfcare queen I love people I love talking to

Speaker 1: people I love working with different people I've never been a solopreneur right as much as I've been an entrepreneur I've always built a team first I truly get a lot of Joy by working with the people that I get to work with every day that was true in the restaurants I loved working with it was true in nonprofit jobs I had it's true of my first company and all through these pivots and it's true today so I think that that is the thing that I find the most energizing is who I get to show up with every day and the problems and the conversations that we get to tackle and the ways that the teams that I've built and the people that I've hired have always pushed me in ways that I sometimes are hard I do find challenging sometimes but I think giving people the space to do that I've grown so much as a result of the people that I I've had the privilege to work with and have hired it's all been a learning experience I'm really motivated by the people that I get to show up with every day and that

Speaker 2: says a lot about you as a leader to be able to create and build a successful team like

Speaker 1: that I am spending more time with my daughter that's what's what I was missing so much of we switched roles on purpose my husband had the job that was working from home and he had the time to pick her up from from school he would take her to soccer practice they were together doing all these life things without me and I didn't want that anymore and that's why I don't work at home anymore and even if it's just sitting next to my daughter having mindless conversation that's where I'm happy that's what I was missing I love that

Speaker 2: you took the time to listen to what it is that you need and this conversation I know resonates with a lot of listeners CU When you love what you do and you have a family there's a lot a pull there and when you really like what you do it's hard to find that separation so good for you today too we're constantly distracted we have our phones we don't take that downtime that we probably should and I just had someone today say to me well you didn't respond to my text message and I thought I had put my phone away because I'm trying to be more intentional about maybe leaving my phone I understand certain people can't do that if you're a doctor or you're on call but I'll leave my phone in my home office for an hour and just not look at it to have that separation so good for you for asking the questions too and looking inside yourself for what you want to be doing that you're not doing and how you can honor

Speaker 1: yourself I just try to talk to my best girlfriends they are some of the most empowering stylish loving smart funny compassionate people I've ever met and and will ever meet being an entrepreneur I have control over my time so I'll duck out for a coffee have people over I'll go quickly like this morning one of my best friends is hosting a bachelorette party and she she knows I love flowers in the New York City wholesale flower market so I went with her at 8 AM to like help her pick things and I was like hey how much are those to the guy you know like I gotta keep her around budget right the finance the finance part of you exactly I was like girl what are you trying to spend okay noted all right those are $35 a bunch you know so like it comes through in everything I do just nourishing my own spirit with the people around me so again personal board of directors just making sure that you are allowing yourself to enjoy the blessings that are already in in your life and your world while you are sort of heads down building what would we do without our girlfriends right I mean that's why I wanted to start she built it because I have supportive men in my life but there's magic happens when women get together and support each other and share friendship what are the ways that you make sure to find and live your joy each day reach out to me I'd love to know the answer thank you for joining us today I'd love to hear from you reach out to me at hello Sheil it.com on our Sheil it website or at Sheed on social thank you to my editor Rich draino who always makes us sound good until next time let nothing stop you from experiencing the life and business that you crave