Mastering Coaching: Molly Claire’s Success

Speaker 1: [Music] don't allow that pressure of having to do everything to get in the way of your Clarity on your own priorities when you can get a Crystal Clear Vision of what your personal priorities are and decide very clearly and with commitment that the business you're building is there to support that quality of life that will allow you to stay on track with keeping that balance I'm Melanie bar welcome back to the shilp podcast your go-to place to empower you to live the life and business that you crave I'm here to talk about everything from Having the courage to make life and career leaps to the details of how to lead effectively create successful teams Implement strategies for growth and Infuse Tech Innovation I'm here to celebrate your wins and navigate through your challenges I live in the city now but I grew up in a town of a thousand people I've navigated major life leaps a senior level corporate career worked in professional sports and now as a successful entrepreneur who loves business technology family and making meaningful connections with you and the sheu IT Community I also love a good workout and dose of self-care magic happens when we focus on the part of ourselves and our business that brings us joy so turn up the audio open your favorite Notes app grab your favorite drink and here we go welcome back to the Shila podcast thank you for joining us Molly share with us the story behind your personal Journey from being a single mom to building a six-figure business when I first started my business I was just becoming a single mom I had been a stay-at-home mom for nearly 15 years I had different business ventures but this was a pretty big deal for me I mention this because I know that when you're a woman who is starting your own business or maybe you've been financially dependent to some degree and you're stepping out to be the bread winner it's a big deal there's an identity shift that has to happen and a lot of fears so I just want to mention that for those listening that can relate to that but it's definitely doable it's all doable I found coaching and fell in love with the entire coaching model that I found I started using it with clients it was really transformative and it happened to come in my life at just a really important time when I was needing to figure out for myself how do I make sure that I have the time and capacity to be present with my kids and keep stability for them while also providing financially I started my coaching business figuring out what's the business plan going to look like what is my starting point how do I manage these moving parts of my life and really from there it was a combination of having that ultimate vision of what I wanted to create in my life and business and then just taking one step at a time we think that it's going to be this beautiful pretty path like I know where I'm going and now I just take the steps but it's not like that at all good for you for having The Bravery to do that and move forward and share with us what what type of coaching you do yeah in my business I work with coaches to help them with their coaching skills and so I offer a master coach training and I'm also offering now a level one certification and so I help coaches with their skills but but the type of coaching the work I do with my clients personally when I'm coaching them and also that I'm teaching them to do is a matter of understanding human cognition thought patterns how to work with clients to be able to shift their mindset and their beliefs also bringing in understanding the emotional component of the person in front of you because you can't just do mindset there are emotions that are stored in the body I work with clients on cognition emotions also having an understanding of the nervous system and how that comes into play when people are trying to implement change in their life and then also action focused strategies most of my clients are doing personal work with their clients so it's not business coaching but it is personal life it's coaching moms coaching on parenting coaching on relationships coaching on health goals and I use that holistic approach to training them and you mentioned finding a coaching platform in the beginning how did you find it how did coaching come into your life I was at this really interesting time in my life where I was trying to recover from chronic fatigue syndrome I woke up for years at 4:30 or 5 every day I would go to the gym and work out and I found myself hit with chronic fatigue syndrome I was trying to recover from that I had three kids and my marriage was struggling and I happened to have this opportunity to do a free coaching session my sister she's a marriage and family therapist and was certifying and she said hey can I practice some coaching on you and I'm telling you Melanie like I remember still vividly doing this coaching session and the process she did with me it was almost like everything was frozen in time and I could see the wheels turning in my head as I felt like things for me and what was possible for me were opening up in a totally new way talking about things where I'd been stuck and had conversations about them and continue to stay stuck but this kind of unlocked that opening and so it was this moment where I knew okay I want to be a part of this I want to help other people experience this and everything about coaching it dates way back before I found coaching but everything just really aligned with who I am and what I like to do with people and it just came at a perfect time in my life and thank goodness it did because it's been everything for me not just from a business perspective but personally it's amazing those conversations can change our lives in such a dramatic way and you and sometimes pretty quickly yes and it came at a time when I really needed it and I needed the coaching personally and how fortunate that it also has been the career path that just lights me up I love what I do every single day in your experience what are the common money limits that women face and how can they start to overcome these and create an abundance this is a big topic because I'll give you a quick personal story so when I was building my coaching business and going through my divorce I remember coming face to face with one of my biggest money limiting beliefs which was I can't make as much money as a woman that a man can and I did not want this to actually exist in my brain and when I realized that it was there I thought this is unacceptable for me to believe this I relate this back to these common money challenges this question you're asking I just remember in that moment realizing that I needed to decide that I would believe something different about what was possible for me financially and I remember at the time thinking okay wait a minute I know this woman makes this amount of money I know this woman makes this amount of money Gathering evidence for this and it showed me that what I was believing was a limitation for me was actually not true and it was just a matter of deciding one day I will believe this so much that it will be my reality in truth as I've since worked with thousands of women and training them as coaches and working with them on personal money goals I think that there are definitely a lot of beliefs about what we are capable of financially as women that have even been passed down through generations whether it's what we were taught or just what was literally has been passed down through our DNA and I just want to say to women who are wanting to make more money and create Financial change that it's normal that it feels challenging for you and yet it is possible to push the limit of what you believe and so a lot of the beliefs are gender I can't make as much because I'm a woman a lot of it is believing that if we're going to make more money that we have to spend more time and work harder which is also not true at all and also and this is a different topic that I won't go too much into but the way women think about money is much different men have typically been raised and trained to think about expanding wealth and investing and women typically our minds have been more about managing the money we have so really good even just to know that because when we can start to open up that idea of what if I can think differently about money and think more about investing it shifts our entire approach to things so much of what we do is mindset Absolut how we wake up in the morning what we tell ourselves even if we have a belief that we can make a lot of money and you're right sometimes there are other things hiding in the background that might be holding us back yes yeah it's important to look at those beliefs because the degree to which we perceive we are capable of creating what we want financially is a big deal and there's no reason for that to keep any of us stuck what advice do you have for single moms who are struggling to balance their personal responsibilities with their entrepreneurial goals first I just want to say I see you I hear you I feel you because it really can feel like a heavy weight to have that sense everything is on my shoulders and the best advice that I would give is take a minute to think about what the things are that matter most to you your priorities within your personal life and with your kids and yourself and I know this can be challenging because it can be easy to think I have to sacrifice all of that because I have to make sure that I'm providing well and it depends on the sit situation as well it depends on who was the primary bread winner if there was a primary bread winner how much someone is making what I would say is don't allow that pressure of having to do everything to get in the way of your Clarity on your own priorities when you can get a Crystal Clear Vision of what your personal priorities are and decide very clearly and with commitment that the business you're building is there to support that quality of life that will allow you to stay on track with keeping that balance it allows us to let go of things that really don't matter that we think we should be doing but really don't need to be and that's great advice for anyone juggling a busy lifestyle any mom who might let their family life take over any of the things that they want to do personally absolutely and the other thing I'll just add is that they can be this idea that somehow floats into your head all of a sudden when you're a single mom my kids are missing out I need to provide them more like trying to make up for this deficit and the thing is there has to be an element of trust that because I'm in this situation what I have to give is enough so I'm going to stop worrying about that because think about it if I'm always stressed that I need to do more or bring more to the table I'm depleted of energy and I can't even bring my best self so to say what I have to give has to be enough then it allows you to do it well and just making that time to connect with your kids and love them can really be just a powerful foundation for your parenting yeah it's everything I have 10-year-old twins so in the morning sometimes I'll lay down with them for five minutes as they're waking up and I think this is five minutes but it's going to be transformative that's exactly right it's those little things I've been on this road for a while now I started my business 10 years ago now I have two grown boys and I can honestly say that I've been there for the moments that mattered with them I've been very present with them and I have a really close relationship with all three of them and that feels like a big win I could have a list of all the things I didn't do or what fell through the cracks but to have that relationship and to have them know that they are loved and I'll always be there for them it's a pretty big deal so amazing yeah yeah if coaching is part of your business how can someone build a more profitable coaching business in less than three months and what framework do you recommend yeah so I would say if someone is just building their coaching business if they're wanting it to be more profitable sooner here's what I would say there are plenty of things that you do to build a coaching business over time you want to be growing your list there are a lot of things you invest in your business TimeWise financially creativity and everything for the long-term sustainability and if you're wanting to make money now and profits now counting on your list growth to fund your business now is just not a good strategy because it takes time and so what I recommend is you want to make sure that you are leading with service get in front of audiences that are already built people that already want your coaching Services it's I always teach that you have to balance the activities in your business that are focusing on that long-term steady growth and also those activities that create a quick win in your business because some of those quick wins they may not be creating something for the long term per se they may not be creating a list or building your funnel but they are funding your business they are increasing people that you're able to help and your experience and your testimonials and so that's what I would say is if you're wanting to get your business up and going in a 45 day time frame focus on the simple things have a way for people to schedule with you obviously be good at what you do I know that a lot of people they the coaching industry is like the wild west and there are a lot of all these become a coach today and make this money and that's fine and I really genuinely believe that you need to be good at what you do you have to have a service that is providing value so assuming we'll just assume that you have that value and you are qualified have a way for people to schedule with you have a way to meet with people have a very simple landing page have a have those things in place and then get out there and find the people that you can help and get on as many sessions as you can because it really does require you to go outside of your comfort zone and start making those connections yeah and you're so right those quick wins also give you confidence they give you that boost to keep going when things get hard and challenging absolutely yes yeah when I first started I spoke to a lot of local groups and I just kept getting practice I just said I have this training I have this knowledge I'm going to coach everyone and anyone that will let me and it served me well because when you're building a business you've got to keep building that confidence and momentum magic happens when we focus on the part of our business and oursel that brings us joy what is one thing that you do for you to make sure that you are finding and living your joy I'm in the coaching space and I invest quite a bit in coaching and support for myself and I absolutely love it I always work with different practitioners I have someone I work with on tapping that is like so it's just it's everything for me I do a lot of fun things I go rock climbing I go hiking I do a lot of things that really nourish my soul and I think it just makes me a better business owner better leader better everything yeah it's so true when you step away you think I'm taking time away this might not be good and then usually good things happen when you do that oh the times that I have stepped away and given myself plenty of space to just relax and do enjoyable things those are the times that I have built my best programs hands down so true thank you for joining us today and sharing all of your coaching knowledge and wisdom with us please share with us how and where we can find you yes you can find me at mollyca.com and I do have a free gift that's really great so there's actually two options if you go to my perfect biz.com you can find an option to watch a training about creating an ideal life and business Vision really great for anyone trying to balance either business in Life or work in life and then the other option there is you can actually get some episodes of a private podcast that I've got out that talks about how to implement lasting change but you can go to mollyca.com as well and find me at the masterful coach podcast thank you for joining us today I'd love to hear from you reach out to me at hello at Sheil it.com on our Sheil it website or at Sheed on social thank you to my editor Rich draino who always makes us sound good until next time let nothing stop you from experiencing the life and business that you crave