Simple Joy, Every Day

Speaker 1: hi I'm Melanie bar welcome to the she builted experience with Melanie you're here because you want to experience the life and business that you crave join me as I talk to women who have successfully built it a career and business that they love we dive into the topic of how they built it and talk about everything from Having the courage to make career leaps to the details of how to lead effectively create successful teams Implement strategies for growth and Infuse Tech innovation magic happens when we focus on the part of ourselves and our business that brings us joy so let's dive in hi she built it family today is a special episode about Joy I think a lot about how to make sure I have joy in my life and sometimes I have to be mindful about what brings me joy and find it on purpose today I'm sharing how a few of my previous guests make sure they are finding and living their Joy I hope this episode inspires you because we can all

Speaker 2: use a little more joy in our Liv my days even on the roughest days are so much better because in the morning I wake up I'm not a coffee drinker but I have to drink Spark It's a sort of nutritional supplement kind of energy drink either light a candle or get my diffuser going and I read my devotional and then I write in my gratitude Journal that has changed the way that my whole day goes I'm able to focus on the things that give me joy and I love music I turn my music on and then everything else after that when the kids are going 500 different directions not listening screaming falling out I get stuck in traffic it makes it so much more bearable because I started my day out that way I would highly recommend moms women especially we carry a lot of stuff if we start our day out with whatever it is that gives us joy the whole rest of the day is like piece of

Speaker 3: cake having a sense of purpose in what I do has really made me love showing up for my life even when it's hard and once I saw this Mission or this concept for trip emerge and it actually came out of a meditation as I was moving through my grief uh after losing my husband I got really excited about building and looking at my this new stage of my life with optimism and hope and every day I do I feel like I'm showing up with a contribution mindset really cuz I want to have that same sense of peace that Vic had when he left when he took that last breath and he felt like he had done a good job while he was here and so for me I break it down to what am I doing today as if it were my last day to make a difference in how I interact with people that I am connecting with every day that I'm being kind and considerate and mindful that when I make mistakes in those areas that I immediately clean it up and that I can finish my with a sense of I did good today I showed up for my day fully and sometimes that the best of my ability is to say I'm going to stay in bed today and just watch TV and just rest cuz I need it and so I would advise

Speaker 1: anybody who has a dream to build something to really be present for the Journey of building as opposed to focused on the outcomes because that proc process of iterating and course correcting and getting data in real time and letting it evolve organically it might even lead you to a better outcome as well as really get you connected to the journey itself and that's something that I've felt has really brought a lot of peace and happiness to my life being authentic about what brings you Joy and practicing that within yourself and then giving that back so for me yoga could be one of those things being positive is one of those things so I Am authentically Naturally a positive person and that makes me happy I can just smile I mean I can change my mind quickly being positive doesn't mean that you just fly around with fairy wings it's a choice so for me to express Joy I like to cultivate Joy or positivity and give that back and to me that creates Joy I think focusing on my inner child it's easy to get away from that little self but that's where I find all my joy is when I'm dancing or when I'm singing or when I'm playing or when I'm just having a connected moment with somebody if I'm getting away too much from Little Lauren that's when I notice the depression comes or the anxiety or the drudgery the the inner child is our source of creativity it's our source of Wonder it's our source of possibility and so really honoring her kind of mothering her in a way allows me to refocus on the joy and what my deepest desires are in life and Veer away from the things that just aren't real so part of my joy has been really leaning into the person that I am without having the pretense of like what is expected of me I have really enjoyed that full expression of myself and expansion and that's been a lot of exploration around meditation and mindfulness and writing and reading I've been working with an executive coach for about a year and a half so she's executive coach but she has a spiritual approach she's opened my eyes as to how I can integrate who I am as a professional with who I am as a person holistically not trying to be someone at work that I'm not at home or vice versa that's probably my biggest Joy is the interesting Journey Back Home to myself in seeing the holistic aspect of who I am and enjoying all of that as Tracy coming up to the party without feeling like oh this is business Tracy and now I'm gonna go out on a date and now I'm gonna bring date Tracy Tracy is all one and that's fun and the second thing that I would say for those who are entrepreneurs and builders the one thing that I recognize is I also didn't say what I thought I would think it and say oh but I can't really say that because what if that was re a misinterpret that could put the deal at risk and so finding the comfort and the confidence in saying I'm never going to say again I wish I would have I wish I had the courage I wish I would have said this I wish I would have put my foot down this past year it's been the year of power and the year of just being at peace with the integration the holistic integration and then the ability to say

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